Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Aidilfitri 2013

For the first time in my life I celebrated Aidilfitri not in my hometown hehe (I mean, the first-2nd-3rd day of Syawal lah). Went to husband's hometown to celebrate Aidilfitri with his family. Alhamdulillah everything went very well.

Me and husband arrived in Bintulu, Sarawak, from KLIA, a day before Aidilfitri, on the afternoon. My father in law fetched us, so right after arriving Bintulu Airport we went straight home. We had a quick nap at home before I accompanied my husband and his dad to buy 'air kotak' and 'air tin' for Raya preparation. At that time I just found out that Sarawakians buy ready made drinks to serve to guests who are coming for raya (it makes serving drinks to guests easier and faster!) Then we went home preparing for buka puasa and raya food, I did feel quite exhausted (due to pregnancy) and my mother in law saw how tired I was and she asked me to do less work and go to sleep as soon as I can, huhu.

The next day, the morning of 1st Syawal, I got ready to go to the mosque with my mother in law. In Sarawak they pray Solat Sunat Aidilfitri around 7.30-8.00am (unlike my hometown, KT, around 8.30-9.00am) so I had to wake up and get ready earlier. Yeah mind you that Subuh prayer in Sarawak is also earlier than Semenanjung for ~1hour, okay.. After we finished with that, we went home, did Salam Raya with family members and started to eat Rendang, Kari, Ketupat and everything my in law family cooked. Then parents in law together with husband went to the graves to recite some doa and prayers for their late family members. At about the afternoon, like most of Bintulu Muslims do during hari raya, we went for photoshoot in the studio. In Bintulu the percentage of Muslims not as much as in Semenanjung so most of non Muslims shops are open as usual including photoshoot studio..

With family in law on first Shawal 2013

In Bintulu, I learned that people are visiting relatives' and friends' houses not only during the day, but also at night. (If I am not mistaken, Semenanjung people rarely visit others' houses at night, but maybe that depends also on the family). And one more, Sarawakians wear Baju Raya (Baju Melayu, Kurung/Kebaya/etc) for the whole week of raya, not only on the 1st day of Shawal like Semenanjung Muslims! So these are quite interesting as they really celebrate Raya as much as they can.

On 2nd day of Shawal we went to Miri to visit some of my husband's relatives. We went back to Bintulu on the same day. Third Shawal we had some open houses by husband's relatives to attend, I did eat so many food at the open houses, my favourite Sarawak food are of course Laksa Sarawak and soups made by Sarawakians, as they taste different from what I eat at my hometown hehehehe.

On 3rd day of Shawal also, at night, my husband and I went back to KL by airplane, as we wanted to attend my younger sister's engagement ceremony on 4th Shawal afternoon in KT. We planned to go home as soon as we arrived KLIA but sadly both of us were so tired, we decided to sleep first and woke up earlier (at 4-5am the next morning) in order to reach my hometown, KT by noon.

We departed from KL quite early on 4th Shawal, ~6am, we managed to arrive KT at 11.30am. Yes of course the traffic was very okay, no traffic jammed at all, that was why the journey took shorter time than normal. As I arrived at my home, I ate some food and started to help my sister to get ready for her engagement. Most of our family members were there on her engagement day so I took my chance to meet all my family members including my nieces and nephews...

With family on younger sister's engagement ceremony

Overall, I had a happy Aidilfitri celebration, alhamdulillah, with my big families of both sides. Hope my next Aidilfitri will be as wonderful as this year's, inshaa Allah.... ☺

Thursday, August 1, 2013

Review: My Engagement

I know this is a (super duper) overdue post but I am thinking to share it as I want to give a rough idea to some girls who would like to have a memorable, sweet engagement ceremony without spending too much money on it. This may be more useful for girls who live in Kuala Terengganu, as most of the vendors are located in Terengganu.

with beloved nephew and niece, Ammar and Damia

1. Mini Pelamin/Dais, Persalinan & Make Up

At the time I searched for engagement package, I was searching for a cheap one, of course. As I knew about this wedding boutique from my elder sister (she also used this boutique for her engagement ceremony), I did not think for a long time to make the decision. I messaged the owner of the boutique, Kak Ros, to book for engagement package a month before the date (I knew the date for my engagement quite late because both families agreed to have our engagement as soon as possible, haha), luckily Kak Ros accepted me to book her package and that was really a relief! It costed me only RM400 for all 3 things above. The pelamin was a simple one, also the persalinan (baju) and make up. But seriously I quite did not like my engagement make up as Kak Ros asked for her friend to replace her for me (Kak Ros had 4-5 other brides to make up on the same date), yes my engagement MUA did natural make up but I think my elder sister could do a better make up for me (rugi saja tau). But it was okay since the make up looked good in official photographer's pictures, I could say that my make up was okay. Haha. You can contact Kak Ros at her number - 0199268302, her boutique is located at her house at Gong Badak, Kuala Terengganu, most of the time she is available to entertain you (as the boutique is her home, hehe).

2. Food

I asked for my dad's help to settle this one (I am daddy's girl, you know!) Dad booked nasi dagang Terengganu for ~100 guests with his relative, lives also in the same village as us (his relative is good in making delicious nasi dagang). My sisters did the drinks by themselves, and for tissue-pinggan mangkuk-gelas whatsoever, family bought them. As my ceremony was a simple, small one (which only involved families of both sides), food and drinks are served in the house, of course, no canopy whatsoever involved. 

the hantarans

3. Hantaran

We wanted our hantarans to only include cheap, simple items, but since Sarawakians are people who give valuable items for hantaran during engagement, we ended up giving several items to each other (which others normally give during kahwin, hehe). So from his side, I got; Cincin+Sirih, Baju persalinan nikah, Handbag, Kasut and Kosmetik. And I gave him; Sirih, Kain pelikat, Baju persalinan kahwin, Kasut kerja, Kek, Buah and Coklat. All bought within our engagement budget. Oh yea, the gubahan? Abang booked the gubahans to be done by her sister's husband's auntie - Auntie Shamsiah (contact me if you want to get her number), and I just re-used bekas hantaran my SIL gave to my brother during their wedding (lol). :-)

me and my MIL

4. Official Photographer

As I only knew my engagement date few weeks before the ceremony, this was the toughest one to get. I contacted many photographer in Kuala Terengganu and most of them were fully booked for the date, the ones who were available charged quite high (as high as the wedding photography package). As I wanted only photographer who could offer me budget package - Shoot & Burn, I tried contacting my ex-senior (schoolmates), he is part time wedding photographer, and he said he was available on my engagement date, I was so happy. Seriously, I love all photos he took for my engagement ceremony, I could say having him as my engagement photographer was worth it. He managed to make the ceremony looked so smooth and good, and the props (eventhough very simple) looked beautiful. I would recommend brides to be in Terengganu to book him as wedding photographer, he is a really good one, friendly and very helpful, plus you can get your pictures as soon as 2 weeks after the ceremony (like how he did to me), and I think that was awesome. You can contact him on his Facebook - M Shahmi Shukri

So I think that's all for my engagement review. Everything was so simple and I did not overspend any pennies for this. And thanks to both sides of our family for their supports during the ceremony, really appreciate that very much. :-)

- All photos by M Shahmi Shukri -